Oh My Aching.....

...elbow.

Yes. I said elbow. For those of you who don't remember (and well - that would be most of you. I don't believe I ever posted it on my blog but I know that Dakota did.) back in November of 2007, I fell while at my sister's house. When I slipped, I put my hands out in front of me to catch myself and ended up with a possible elbow fracture. Which I did nothing about.

After about a week or so, it was much better and it went on to rarely bother me. It would ache every now and again but nothing that I couldn't tolerate easily enough (and considering the pain I have on a 24 hour a day basis, it was more of an inconvenience than anything).

The last few weeks though the pain has become pretty bad. I think I must have injured it doing something (like lifting something that was too heavy. *whistling innocently* What? I never do that!) because it is painful every minute of the day. I need to remember to baby it for a few days and see if that eases it. I did google "fractured elbow head" and it turns out that it is rarely put in a cast anyway so I don't feel too bad for not following up on it. After all, I had a 2 year old and a 5 year old to care for at the time. I was busy.

In the meantime, I'm just going to say "It hurts!" and whine a bit. And you are the lucky ones I get to whine to because well...the kids just don't care. :)

And Now...More on Pink

Just for the sake of curiosity, I found Pink's website the other day and I happened across her post about the song "F**king Perfect" which of course made me want to watch the actual official video. Wow. Moving. Touching. Amazing. Well done.

I bought the CD and popped it in to listen and......it's the "friendly" version which I'm not all that thrilled about. I like the power of the "un-friendly" version. It's more real...raw...powerful.

If you are interested, pop on over to Pink's website and scroll down a bit and read and watch.

And may the people in our lives always know they are F**king Perfect just the way they are." Especially those we love.

An Irritating Little Something

I have noticed something that irritates me. I do the bulk of my grocery shopping at WalMart (say what you will but it saves me money) and I buy my Coffee Mate Raspberry creamer there. It is a pain in the a$$ to open. It has a very tight aluminum seal under the cap which must be removed and they leave this tiny tail for you to grasp and pull to remove it.

Except...if you are someone like me, with very little gripping ability, incredibly sore finger joints and numb finger tips, this is darn near impossible and usually involves a few non-child friendly words on my part. I've taken to stabbing through it and then ripping it apart as best I can. It's an ordeal no matter what.

Now....if you go to Safeway and buy the exact same product for a little bit more money, it has a fancy plastic ring pull thing which is easy as 1-2-3 to remove.

Seriously? This is the cutback Coffee Mate chooses to make when selling their products to discount grocers? Really? Does it save them *that* much money?

I mean, on some level I get it but come on. I can't afford the time nor the money to go to different stores to buy different products based on their ease of opening (while spending more money). I keep telling Kelton that he is going to have to get really good at opening things for me. :)

Rant over. :)

Not for Little Ears

Don't say I didn't warn you. I love how Pink cuts to the heart of it. :)

Bitter Glasses and Reflections of Yourself

I have heard tale of "people" finding my blog negative and depressed and how can that not rub off and affect my children. Of course they are having trouble - because, after all, look at their mother who struggles and bitches and complains. Is clearly depressed beyond measure.

Interesting.

Blogging, for me, is like a counseling session when I need it. I can dump all my "stuff" here and leave it. How someone else picks it up and reads whatever they want into it isn't my responsibility. Usually, I can dump and run. Dump stuff, get it out and move on with being a good parent to my amazing kids as I work to find my way. I find it very therapeutic but, how "someone" chooses to add tones and whatnot into it is not my responsibility.

I've been trying to figure out how to get that across and then, today, I read Hollywood Farm Girl's blog (Tammy who used to be married to Melissa Etheridge and who is no longer and instead a single parent to twins with no support from her former partner) and I saw exactly what I needed.

Bitter Glasses
Reflection of Yourself

I think her posting is perfect.

A Typical American Life.

Green Smoothies

I've been back to drinking green smoothies for a couple of weeks in the hopes that a) I will have more energy and b) I can drop the weight I put back on this past while. I don't know if the weight is coming down but I do know I have more energy.

I've gotten used to sneaking in a greatly needed hour nap in the afternoon and for the second day in a row now, I can't nap. As in, I can close my eyes but sleep is nowhere near happening. Usually I have been out cold as soon as I closed my eyes.

Before the past year or so, the only time I ever napped was when I was pregnant or sick. Napping just isn't in my DNA. The past year though, napping is what has helped keep my sanity intact. I am not a good nighttime sleeper so a mid-afternoon nap helped get me through. It was my "reward" for getting everything done I need to get done (job hunting, chores, Kaylen, etc). It might also, just maybe, been a sign of anemia. Now that I am downing fruits and veggies by the gallon (especially spinach which is loaded with iron)I find I have more energy than I have in a long, long time.

It's nice but I will say that after my very busy morning of applying for jobs, cleaning the house and going to the school, I was looking forward to an hour of sleep on my cozy couch in a sun patch.

So if you are lacking energy, I highly recommend green smoothies.

Big Happenings for a Little Girl

The sun is breaking through the fog this morning and in a way, it's a perfect description of my state of mind. I go for a while at a good clip and happy mindset and then BAM! I hit a wall and sink below the water line. I've been sinking for almost two weeks but yesterday and today it seems to be turning around. Thank goodness.

Today I managed to get a lot accomplished already. I've done the regular morning stuff of making beds, getting kids ready and off to school but I've also ran the dishwasher, I'm on my second load of laundry, I've vacuumed the couches and the carpeted floors and swept and mopped the kitchen floor. And all but the vacuuming of the floors was done before the school bus arrived.

Wait! Did I just say school bus? Oh yes I did! For the second day in a row Kaylen and Kelton rode the bus to school. And for the second day in a row, they will be riding it home.

Now this is BIG. HUGE. GINORMOUS! Yesterday was the first day since that fateful first week of school that Kaylen rode the bus home from school. AND SHE LIKED IT! It is now her decision to ride it home "every day" fro now on. OMG! I can't believe it! You have no idea what a huge thing this is for her and for me. I am so proud of her!!!!

Kaylen isn't ready to give up the 12-15 minutes at lunch recess where I am there but considering the strides she made yesterday and today? I'm totally fine with that. She took the lead and decided what she was ready for and I am ok with the fact that she isn't ready to not see me half way through the day for a few minutes. Sure - it's a pain in the rear to interrupt job hunting at 11:00 to run over to the school for a few minutes but the rewards are clearly worth it!

AND she gave up her red cushion for her carpet spot in her classroom. She came home Tuesday and just casually mentioned that she gave it back to the school counselor because she "doesn't need it anymore". I cannot believe we are FINALLY in this place. She is doing it - and I could not be more proud of her.

I know a lot of people can't possible understand the challenges she has had to overcome and that's ok. Be grateful that your child doesn't have the issues that Kaylen has had to deal with. Be grateful that this stuff comes easily for your children or grandchildren. But for me? I am very proud of my daughter and honestly, proud of me for helping her navigate her issues and fears to help her become the self-assured school girl she is now.

What an awesome week. Yay Kaylen!!!

Life is good.

Todays Outfit

Yes, she wore it to school. And yes, those are pajama pants.

Fashionista to be sure! :)

Life Ramblings

It's funny how life changes, isn't it? Not all that long ago I was doing reading on how to get pregnant (you scoff....but for a lesbian there are many different ways and processes to think about), breast vs bottle, co-sleeping vs cry it out, attachment parenting vs not. I was reading everything baby related I could get my hands on including prenatal vitamin reviews because all that stuff is important for having a healthy child.

Then it was diapers, and toys and clothes followed by which food to start them on and how to introduce new foods. Then there were finger foods and playdoh and painting. Books to read, walks to take and manners to teach.

And then, for me, it was starting over from point A while still continuing on with child #1.

Those days felt endless. But now....now I'm looking at one baby turning six and the other turning nine. Definitely no longer babies but the learning curve is still there, still intense. The decisions over plastic or glass bottles seem so easy in comparison to the decisions to be made now.

And I am well aware this is just the tip of the iceberg. I cringe when people say "It doesn't get easier, you know." Yes, I can see that....but can you at least pretend for those of us with kids younger than yours?

Life. The only thing constant is change.

Blah

I have had a not-so-great weekend. I'm in a funk and can't seem to get out of it right now. You know that "the deck is stacked against you" feeling? Yeah. I got it and for no particular reason. I mean seriously, you would think I would be used to the state of affairs in my life (no job, rejection, being overwhelmed, exhausted, etc.) that I would just come to accept it and know that it is what it is.

And yet. And yet I want it different. I want someone to call on the many applications I submit each week. I want someone to say "I see potential and I'm willing to take a risk on you." But nope.

Yes, I have tons of things to be grateful for....and I am, believe me. I know it could be worse and I am very thankful it isn't. I'm healthy (enough) to be able to live my life, my kids are fantastic and amazing and healthy, no one in my family is dealing with a horrible disease. I have people who support me in many various ways.

So why do I have this overwhelming feeling to run for the hills? Fight or flight and I'm tired of fighting. I guess that's what it is.

I need a break (which, yes, I know is ironic considering I don't have a job), a weekend at the beach, time with friends to just be silly and laugh....or cry. Whichever. I need a break from the stress and the worry of how this is all going to turn out.

Because this life? Not really turning out the way I dreamed it would.

Friday

It's Friday. There is a big teacher conference in building today so both the kids have substitutes. Kelton has actually had a sub in one of his classes for many weeks this year because his regular teacher is having medical issues so he is used to it and, even if he wasn't, he can roll with it better.

Kaylen freaks out. Usually, she convinces me she is sick and gets me to let her stay home before I clue in to the sub issue but I was determined she would go today and face her fear. She tried hard to get out of it with "My tummy hurts so much!" and "I think I'm going to throw up." but I wasn't biting. I gave words of support and kept her moving towards leaving for school. It's moments like these that make me feel like I have stress zits popping up and that I should buy stock in adult acne treatments. It's stressful to remain calm while trying to mentally navigate all the scenarios which might take place and how I will handle each and every one.

When we walked into the office, we saw her regular teacher who waved to her from the conference room and said "Remember, Kaylen. I'm right here all day." That seemed to help. We walked over to her room and introduced ourselves to the sub. As Kaylen put her things away I spoke quietly to the sub to ask if she has been alerted to Kaylen's issue. Thankfully, she had been.

While Kaylen settled in I quickly said my goodbye and was on my way. I really think she will do fine though I am prepared for a meltdown at lunch. I'm working on my game plan for keeping her at school for the rest of the day. Hopefully, my stress will be for nothing and it will go well. I hope so. I want her to know she CAN do this!

Bedtime for Monkeys

Dakota is here with the kids tonight and I didn't have plans so I am just hanging out in my room. I am enjoying being in my cozy pajamas and in my nice warm bed while she struggles to get them to do what needs to be done to get them into bed.

Their voices are loud.....I wish I had a good pair of headphones to plug into my MP3 player so I could listen to music instead of "Kelton - please go brush your teeth and put on your pajamas!" over and over. It's not that they don't listen to her - they don't listen to anyone when it comes to settling down and getting ready for bed. :)

Can someone please tell me when they can be quiet and calm all evening but then, as bedtime approaches they spin wildly out of control? Ugh.

It's a good thing they are cute. :) :) :)

And Speaking of Kaylen.....

She sort of freaked me out last night. We were watching something and the topic of being 17 came up. She said, in her serious little voice, "Mom, I won't be alive any more when I am 17."

It shook me but I tried not to show it and instead said "Yes you will, silly girl!" But I have to say, my heart dropped because she tends to bring up these off the wall things about past lives, another family, etc.

My mind flipped through memories of the past with her...before she started talking about angels and drowning and living in a pink room with angels taking care of her. Before the days where she talks about the ceremony and party we will have when she is dead. Back to the days when she was small and would dress up in costume jewelry and laugh at her silly reflection.



To memories of her pulling up for the first time in her crib (which she didn't sleep in but did enjoy hanging out to play in), learning to walk.....all those amazing moments when it feels like life is stretched out endlessly in front instead of being confronted with thoughts of "What does she know that I don't?"

This little girl certainly keeps me on my toes.

Birthday Girl to Be

Kaylen's birthday is coming up quickly. She is going to be turning 6 years old on February 10th. Where has the time gone? Sure, right now we are picking out cute little kitty cat party supplies and invitations but before I turn around many more times, it will be time to send out the graduation invites. But wait! Didn't I just send out the birth announcements?

I wish I could keep the kids at the age they are right now. They are growing and changing so fast that I don't feel like I can even blink for fear I will miss it. I told Kaylen this morning that I wanted to keep her little and she looked at me and very seriously said "You can't, Mom. It won't work."

*sigh* Oh I know, baby girl. I know.

Lost In Time

Right now my kids are in the tub together. Do you any idea how long it's been since they have taken a bath together? A year? Maybe two? Kelton mostly takes showers now and Kaylen will take a shower every morning with me and a bath any time she can.

So what has them in there together right now? Bath foam, paint, crayons and a Winnie the Pooh color set.

I found a long-lost bag in the garage last week while I was cleaning and reorganizing which was clearly meant to be Christmas gifts from about 3 years ago. In years gone by, we always got the kids bath stuff for their stockings and Dakota must have picked up things on an outing and the bag slipped down behind some bins. I'm saying Dakota because I don't remember buying the items (and I really think I would have remembered the PlayDoh robot kit and the Winnie the Pooh coloring set). Come to think of it though, there was only one set of things which meant it was either from Kaylen's first Christmas (when she wouldn't have gotten those things) or prior to Kaylen. I can't imagine we wouldn't have gotten two of each of the crayons, paint and foam if Kaylen had been old enough to use them. Wow. That's a mind bender. Interesting.



Anyway - the kids were so excited, since it's been over a year since they had things like these for the tub, and have been eager to play with everything. Except they would only remember when it was bedtime and there was no way I was going to let them stay up another hour past bedtime to play in the tub. Kelton remembered about 30 minutes ago so quick as a flash, we had everything opened and they were up to their armpits in fun.

It's kind of nice for this mommy to hear them playing together in the tub like they used to....it brings memories of their babyhoods flooding back.

Saturday

It's been a quiet Saturday. The kids and I have kept busy with various games and activities but all in all, a quiet day. This afternoon we all hung out on the couches and watched Baby Geniuses (oh my. Kinda cute but mostly...oh my.). We had popcorn and just cuddled together and hung out.

I made them "breakfast for dinner" and then they settled in to watch Veggie Tales. I know a lot of people really like Veggie Tales but from the very first one I ever saw I have not been a fan. The truth is, I'd rather have a colon cleanse than have to sit through one of their shows.

No, really. It's true. Yes, the messages are timeless but I could not find it more annoying if I tried. I'm talking, nails on chalk board annoying. So while they watch I am tooling around the 'net catching up on blogs and Facebook.

I know. You are all so incredibly jealous of my life. :)

Fashionista?

I dare all of you who could find redeeming quality in this outfit to now find some in *this* one.

Oy.



And yes, she went out in it.

Wednesday

I'm feeling down and out this morning for no reason I can pinpoint accurately. Maybe I'm just tired. Maybe the cold I am catching is taking a toll. I don't know.

The kids headed back to school today. Kaylen is crabby and cranky so I'm not convinced she is 100% but she has a play date and skate night tonight that she absolutely does not want to miss. She doesn't have a fever and her throat isn't terrible looking so I let her go to school. She had a complete and utter meltdown over what I packed for lunch today (which is always a great way to start a day for me) but I stood firm and told her she could eat it or not. Kelton, being the big brother, ran into the kitchen and slipped a yogurt tube into her lunch. I love that he was trying to help but dang it. How will I get them to eat what I give them when they both try to save each other from big bad mommy? *sigh* I guess I should just be happy they love each other so much.

On a sad note, Kaylen's friend, Sam, is moving away this weekend. It is sudden and for a good reason for their family (better job for his dad) but both she and I are very sad to be losing our new friends. She cried a while yesterday when I told her but hopefully we will be able to stop in and see them on our next trip North.

The snow that we had been promised for a week never materialized yesterday and I have to say, I'm incredibly disappointed. Weather people? The next time there is a chance, keep it to yourself. Let us be surprised. Please?!

I guess I should go work on something productive even though I would rather just surf the web and read whatever the links lead me to.....weather, news, things to do, diet pill warnings, facebook....whatever. But alas, even though I don't really want to, I need to be responsible.

Here's hoping for a good day.

Photos from My Phone

I uploaded all the photos from my phone. This first set is what happens when you try to get a cute picture of my kids in front of my sister's Christmas tree. I'm sure she has a couple hundred more because she is way more patient with their goofiness. :)

And then we added the cousins....

And now - present time!

And art time (with my dad overseeing them).
The next day the kids had hot tub time before we left Uncle James' house to spend New Years with my sister and the cousins.


Aunt Lannon is always good for arts and crafts time. Uncle James and Aunt Cara brought the gingerbread men decoration kit.

And Kaylen put together her mirror kit with help from her cousin. I totally love this picture! I adore how she is looking over her glasses. :)

And then -the New Years toast!

On the way home the next day, the kids and I took a side trip to the cemetery.
This is my mom.....
My maternal grandfather.....
My uncle.....
Then we went to the other side of the cemetery and visited my paternal side....I completely neglected taking a photo of my grandparents (and my plot next to theirs) but I did get my grandmother's brother and parents.....
Next up was a trip past the house I lived in with I first met Dakota. We lived there together for about a year and a half before we bought our first house.
This is a pile of kitties on my bed. Zip, the kitten, is in the middle. He is growing FAST!
And that pretty much ends the tour of Casey's phone photos. :) Fun, right?